What is Sexism?
Sexism is any expression (act, word, image, gesture) based on the idea that some persons, most often women, are inferior because of their sex.
What is misogyny?
Misogyny is defined as the ‘hatred towards women’ and takes shape in multiple forms including male privilege, patriarchy, gender discrimination, sexual harassment, belittling of women, violence against women and sexual objectifiction.
What is rape culture?
Rape culture is a culture in which sexual violence is treated as the norm and victims are blamed for their own assaults. It's not just about sexual violence itself, but about cultural norms and institutions that protect rapists, promote impunity, shame victims, and demand that women make unreasonable sacrifices to avoid sexual assault.
Rape culture (the subtle use of language and jokes) perpetuates sexual violence and harrassment - until we tackle this then we never be able to truly stop the more overt problems.
- Rape culture is rape memes and jokes on social media.
- Rape culture tells male survivors they “can’t" be assaulted.
- Rape culture calls sexual assault “harmless fun.”
- Rape culture is hateful online comments.
- Rape culture is victim-blaming.
The effects it has
Rape culture suggests that men have a ‘right’ to women’s bodies, thus undermining the concept of consent.
This leads to common misconceptions about women “asking for it” or “wanting it”, even if they explicitly say otherwise:
This leads to public speculation about whether victims’ dress or behaviour could be to blame for their own assaults.
This shifts all the focus onto victims, while perpetrators are not addressed at all.
Worst of all, the widespread and normalised nature of rape culture makes it increasingly hard for victims to speak out, as they learn to believe they won’t be taken seriously, or are dismissed when they do.
The cycle is perpetuated as victims are silenced and blamed, the crime normalised, and perpetrators completely ignored.
What can we do?
Calling in, not calling out!
The difference between calling people in and calling people out is that whilst in both situations you are criticizing people for their behaviours, but when you call people ‘in’ you try to bring them ‘in’ to the conversation explaining in more detail why their actions are wrong.
The emphasis here is to educate the individual and demonstrate to them the effects of their choice of language or action. If done publicly, the person involved may be less willing to take the criticism on board and react in a defensive manner. If too confrontational, you can show your disapproval to sexist comments etc by not validating the comment with a laugh, staying quiet, or by changing the subject.
Another tactic is asking questions - ‘How was that funny? I don’t really get it’.
You could also personalise it - 'Would you say it if it were my sister? Or my mum? Or your girlfriend?'